Why divorce for love?
My story begins more than 30 years ago, as a child living in a home with parents who had stopped loving each other. Yet, they decided to "do the right thing" which, they mistakenly understood, was staying together for the kids. They lived under the same roof for over ten years, exchanging very few remarks until my Dad had enough and left. That is when I made a pact with myself that if I ever stopped loving my husband, I would accept it and move towards a new contract that would honor our loving past together and signal a new relationship without the marital commitment.
Three years ago, when I found myself in the middle of the storm that comes with the confusion of a relationship ending I had to remind myself of that promise and that our children would not suffer the way my siblings and I did. I am not going to lie, it was not an easy process, I am not here to say that divorce can be a walk in the park. But I will tell you that it does not have to be as hard as we have been told. I want to help you overcome your fears, find clarity on how to move forward, answer the questions that keep you awake at night and more importantly hold your hand and give you reassuring advice you while you walk through this transition.
My ultimate purpose is to help society shift from the view that divorce is a failure to one that acknowledges that sometimes relationships end and that there is a way to transition into a new agreement without the drama. I want to remove the negative associations of divorce with "shattered childhoods", "broken homes" and 'financial struggles". More importantly, I want to remove one of the most painful aspects of a divorce and that is the lack of appropriate support. Not from well-intentioned friends and family but mentoring from someone who has been there and understands what you are going through. Not everybody experiences rejection, criticisms, judgments and isolation but for those who do, it makes the process considerably more challenging and we are here to make sure that nobody has to do this alone.
If you feel confused about whether your relationship has ended or not, need guidance to move forward with your divorce or want a supporting team around you, please do not hesitate to contact us and we will help you decide what option is best for you.
Mahalo, Olga Nadal